BOYS TALK

PEACE BE UPON YOU.

and let us just say, I don't really favour this topic because
 a) it will never end.
 b) I will disagree with everyone else's opinion/s.
 c) everyone will end up praying for my future (in a very sarcastic way).
and the list goes on...

but, as a lady, I won't be a hypocrite. with all my heart and soul, it would be pretty nice if I marry a MAN/GUY/DUDE in the future. I mean come onnnn, who the heck wants to end up alone on her 35th birthday with a grumpy face on while watching Game of Thrones (GOT) which her favourite characters keep on dying. God it is darn painful on both being single at 35 and dying characters in GOT. too much pressure to handle at that age.

I am that kind of lady who is quite choosy in picking guy friends. I have a few that Im really close with. like I'll smack your head when you are making stupid jokes kind of close. 2 from high school and 2 from university? I guess? LOL! oh and ya! not forgetting my brother cousin- a friend, a brother, movie buddy, the one who pay my meals when Im broke, and most importantly the only person who is uber super amazingly calm when my inner devil decide to switch place. he is almost everything. just name it. like who the hell can do that? 

anyhow, I have nothing against boys because 

a) I was raised in a family of 6 where my dad is the only man.
b) I spent almost 9 years of my life in girls' school.
c) too much girl power morphine injected inside me.
d) what boys can do I can too, but I can only get pregnant WITH the help of my husband.
e) girls are wayyy wayyy wayyy fun to hang out with (we understand complexity).
but don't get me wrong, at times, I need my guy friends to chill the complexity in me that grows every year. boys are cool and steady. kudos! things that we girls can never be. 

I am keeping my circle of guy friends small just because it is best that way. don't you think? you keep the real & good ones. but my friends are mostly, hmmm, just say that, I deserve such friends because karma serves me right. I sort of accept the friends I think I deserve? haha! nevertheless, my guy friends are among the best in the world. they handle my crap and shit like a pro. sometimes, they dont even give a damn. which can be understood. nice guys. nice. 

cutting the chase, girls all over the world, I know when you are at my age, you started to worry and feel insecure of yourself on whether the right guy will appear in your life, even when you secure yourself a man, you still ask question like is he the right one. or the most annoying question ever is why can't my boyfriend be like this guy in this drama/movie. for the love of God my fellow species, please, stop comparing, stop having wild imagination on having the exact dude in movies and dramas. it ain't gonna happen! just like how guys expect women to be perfect like angelina jolie who practically cooks delicious food and do everything all at once. it ain't gonna happen either. well, technically, we woman will eventually adopt such incredible doing-all-things-at-once skill but it needs time. and we can work on physical appearence? kan? (lols). at least angielina jolie or less punya level? 

point is (or are), boys will be boys and we girls will be girls. we are two different species that can never ever switch place and understand each other thoroughly. we tolerate, we compliment, we help each other but don't expect each other to be you. you can't be him, he can't be you. learn to embrace flaws that you have and you will eventually learn how to embrace someone else's flaws. eh girls, you expect to find a man that look good and have perfect muscles and everything perfect and I can promise you that you can never find one. human by nature have flaws, one way or another, they WILL be lack on something. and you want to go for rich guys? go ahead, you will be content eventually. I mean,who on earth would hate a shopping spree 5 times a week but happiness on dollars is risky. not a smart move. one day, if the money runs out, I hope your love remains still. hopefully lah kan. 

I often get asked on questions like, 
a) what kind of guy that can impress you?
b) siapa je yang hensem dekat mata kau kalau sorang pun tak de yg hensem?
c) what kind of guy who would be so stupid to risk his life and marry you instead?
d) what are you actually qistina?
e) what happen after (if) one day you get married? 

answers to those questions are :-
a) the kind of guy who sincerely utilize his brain functions
b) well, beauty is subjective. but charm and aura can beat the look of a person. and the only way to obtain charm is by utilizing the brain functions.
c) haha! I like this question. the guy who would be stupid enough to marry me is the guy who accept my flaws and the one who can handle my perfection? LOL! (but girls, it is unfair to ask people to just accept your annoying flaws. hence, warn them in advance. don't force people to accept your flaws if they can't. respect that)
d) I am who I am. every single day I try my best to be a better person. but nahhh, who am I trying to kid, I am plain yogurt sometimes. 
e) I dont know. babies maybe. Im hoping for twins and 6 years pause from having another baby or another twins. observing my husband from the kitchen on how he teaches our kids about which song is better to listen to. arguing with my husband on topics that can't even change the world. all those crap. 

so yeah girls, you will be perfectly fine. my vision might be slightly off on the idea of how much perfect is perfect. not that I have anything plan out but you girls out there can survive this world. if awful human being like me can sort of manage life, you sweet pretty girls out there deserve much better treatment. at the end of the day, always remember, embrace flaws and accept differences and and and don't expect your man to be your chaperon/everything else in movies. like my great dad and a friend once said, 'cubalah kalau nak something tu usaha sikit. pakai kuderat sendiri'. apa? nak running shoes? pernah try kerja kfc tak? trylah dapat gaji cukup bulan, go get yourself a pair of running shoes. bliss!